COMPLIMENTS: YES PLEASE!

Yesterday morning I was particular happy when I came into my office. I think I had a smile on my face all the way into the city, remembering the dinner-party I had the day before and the comments my friends said the night before. I was happy to see them all again, and in a very good mood.

My advisor stopped at my office door to say good morning or something… he stopped, looked at me and the gave me this nice, a bit shy look as the words just flew out of his mouth: “you look really nice today”, and then he rushed off.

I just mumbled “thank you”, I was a bit surprised, but very happy, because the compliment without a doubt came straight from his heart, and his intentions weren’t suspicious in any way (one of the reasons he’s my advisor – been there, done that…).
He was simply being nice, and he surely gave me a good start that Monday morning :o)

I guess I could go on writing my thoughts on how important is to express your appreciation of the people you like, or even love, but I won’t… (Got a job application I need to finish…) I just wanted to share how it really made my (good) day better to get started with a nice compliment like that!

UPDATE

Yes Tommy, it’s been a while since I’ve shared my thoughts.

I’ll try to give an update…

July meant working and trying to figure out what the H… I’m going to do about my professional life. I’ve previously said that working within academia and trying to get to work within is testing my ability to motivate myself, and this time I reached the limit. When august came and my employment ended I just couldn’t find the motivation anymore. I simply didn’t care anymore, and it infected my personal life as well; nothing really mattered anymore. Fortunately I had some money saved for a vacation, and I decided to start the vacation right away, meaning that I stopped working (searching for a job) a week earlier than planned. The weather finally turned from rain to sunshine and I packed my PC and everything in my office into boxes (the department is moving to another location) and left the (damn) building and meet a girlfriend and her son for ice cream :o)
My advisor told me NOT TO THINK about the project and just rest and find my smile again, and I actually succeeded in doing so, and kept the damn project at a distance by telling people (who kindly asked) that I was trying to relax and think about something else and that I really didn’t remember anyway… which turned out to be truth in the end (and a little bit problematic now that I’m trying to get up to speed again) and I had fun and worked hard at relaxing for a few weeks. This means that I’ve spend a lot of hours with my special someone, saw the family, read some old magazines in the sun and just looked into the blue sky while clearing my brain.

Today I’ve been trying to get my act together at do some research for my next application, a slow start I have to admit, but it seems like the right thing. Now I just have to believe that it will happen THIS TIME! I’ve been here before, and it’s a bit hard to convince myself that something is going to happen this time. So that’s the daemon I’m fighting right now and the reason my blog has been left untouched for a while. Well, maybe the number of daemons is more like two… or ten… but you know about some of them and they are a bit to personal to post here…

Have to go; I'm off to fight one of the bastards ;o)